Most men get married thinking that they are going to have a lot of sex. In the beginning of marriage, most men do have a lot of sex but then as the newness wears off and all of the burdens of living life begin to squeeze the couple, sex is usually where the cut-backs begin.
When sex becomes infrequent in marriage, a husband might feel as though he has been ripped off. Think about it, he is more than willing to go out into the world every day to fight for you and the children. He will protect your family even if it means giving up his own life. He will conquer the most opposing foe. He takes on all of this willingly but somewhere in his mind, he is thinking that there is a payoff. For most men, the payoff is a satisfying sex life with his wife.
If a wife is not taking this aspect of marriage seriously, she is basically committing contract fraud. If you have a husband who seems angry or distant, examine whether or not his sexual needs have been a priority to you. No wife wants to be a cheat or a fraud but how would you feel if your husband did the minimum to provide for your household? Wouldn’t you feel that he is cheating you and the children?
Men were created in a way that makes them need regular sex with the one woman that they chose. When we reject our husband’s sexuality, we are rejecting the Creators design. There is a Proverb that says “hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life”.
Watch for Part II where I am hoping to give you practical solutions for this problem.