Experiencing anguish is a part of living life but what does it mean when we continue to feel the pain at an overwhelming intensity level, even after many months or even years have passed? If this is you, you might be stuck. Today, I would like to offer you hope. With a little help, you can get unstuck and begin living a joyful life again.
Before we begin, I would like to clarify that I am not suggesting that there is an appropriate amount of time to grieve. Grief is as individual as we are. There is a point, where we each intuitively know that our grieving is no longer healthy. At this point, we must find a pathway to moving forward with our life. Essentially grieving is healthy until it isn’t. Are you emotionally paralyzed? Is your physical health beginning to suffer? Do you no longer believe that you can or should be happy again? Have you lost and not regained motivation to do the things that need to be done, or that you previously enjoyed? Can you see little or no progress from when you first experienced the grief causing event? Don’t despair, there is help available. Make an appointment with a trained and qualified counselor, and go to your first appointment prepared to be transparent and looking forward to getting better.
I’m writing from experience. This past year was a tough one – a full year of experiencing one relationship failure after another. Each situation was unique and caused a different level of anguish but when combined together, I was overwhelmed. I did my very best to work through the process of grieving, as well as making difficult decisions, but I finally realized that it was time to get some assistance. Vanity is powerful. I had been able to tolerate the minor panic attacks and a relapse into adrenal fatigue, but realizing that my hair was falling out in great amounts and that I was eating my grief and gaining weight, moved me into action. I located a qualified counselor and began sessions.
How does a counselor help? A counselor is unbiased. They won’t allow you to continue to reinforce incorrect thinking. They will help you to arrive at the vital acceptance of circumstances that you cannot change. They will help you to see that you have a bright future ahead of you. Essentially, you have been on an oval race car track. Your car only turns left and goes around and around but never moves forward. With the counselors help, you can get off of that track and begin to move forward again.
Sharing this with my readers is difficult for me to do but I believe that God has asked me to be authentic with you. I’m hoping that there is at least one person out there, that might be helped by this post. I do want to caution you – be aware that not all counselors are helpful and some will interject very non-biblical ideas. Have your discernment sharpened and look at things through a biblical lens. I’m happy to report that I am doing much better – I am a stronger woman and full of spunk according to my counselor. Best of all, I am looking forward to a bright future. I am learning new things to better myself, have taken on a new writing opportunity for my church, I’m looking forward to my children’s next phase of life and the next season in my marriage. You can look forward to a bright future too. I’m hoping that this year will be a blessed one for you.