What does every male have that he loves very much? Two things come to mind immediately, but we’re not going to discuss the one that just made you chuckle. Today, we’re talking about the females in man’s life – a mother, sister, grandmother, friend, girlfriend, daughter or wife.
Just tell me what you want. What did I do wrong? I’m so eager to please you. These are the pleas of a son, brother, grandson, male friend, boyfriend, father and husband. The men in your life, would like you to know, a woman can relieve a load of pressure from her relationships with men, if she would communicate her hurts, complaints and desires. When a woman becomes silent, responds with a curt answer or withholds kindness or intimacy, he interprets this as a manipulative game play and he’s not a fan of that game.
How can a woman avoid this behavior?
>If he has hurt, upset or disappointed you, tell him. Calmly. Don’t make him wonder, beg or plead. The tension is a relationship killer. If you are too hurt or angry to behave respectfully or warmly, let him know that you will talk about it when you’re calm and then make sure that you do. Don’t let it build and don’t withhold kindness in the meantime.
>Don’t ignore a man and then suddenly use sweetness or flirtation to get what you want. If it is appropriate for you to flirt with this man, flirt but not because you want something from him.
>If you ask a man for input on decisions, then listen to his point of view. Don’t bother asking if you’re not going to consider his ideas, feelings, tastes or dislikes.
>If he asks you where you would like to go out to eat or what you would like to do, don’t respond with “I don’t care – you decide”. Usually, men don’t want to make this decision on their own. If you have nothing in mind, ask him to offer a few choices and then pick one. He wants you to enjoy yourself.
>Do you want or need something from him? Make your request be known. Don’t make him guess and then get upset when he doesn’t “read your mind” correctly. Does it need to be done immediately? Let him know why.
>Don’t use social media to display passive aggressive or other negative behaviors. Your snarky remark isn’t gaining you points. In fact, it hurts him and he loses respect for you.
>If this man is your husband, do not withhold sex as a punishment. Clearly, intimacy is emotional for a woman, so work out your differences as quickly as possible and then return to a great relationship.
Respectful communication is crucial. Learn how to communicate your hurt, requests and expectations calmly. The golden rule can be applied here, so speak in the same manner that you would like to be spoken to. You’ll likely get what you want and need and he won’t be walking on thin ice out in the freezing cold. Everyone is a winner.