Leftovers – great for those occasions when you’re short on time but leftovers can’t compare to my best effort in putting a fresh hot meal on the table. What kind of a marital diet is your spouse on? Are you serving leftovers or your best effort?
Most of us have fairly good manners and we try very hard to put our best face forward with acquaintances, clients, co-workers and friends. Our spouse deserves the same courtesy but when we’re tired or grumpy, sometimes they are the recipient of our impolite, impatient, demanding, uncharitable, distracted and at the very least, low energy behavior. It’s true that we should be comfortable and at ease with our spouse but we should never make them feel less valuable than the other people in our life.
Here are some ways that we can give our spouse what they deserve – the best that we have to offer.
>Greet your spouse with as much enthusiasm as you would greet others.
>Say goodbye with as much feeling as you would with others.
>Ask them about their life and how things are going for them.
>Put their needs before the children.
>Look at them in their eyes when they are speaking to you. Put your device down.
>Try to look your best for them.
>Compliment them on their appearance or their efforts.
>Smile at them.
>Date them and from time to time, put some effort into the planning and preparation.
>Have compassion for them when they make a mistake. Don’t lecture them about it.
>Don’t demand that they serve you but say thank you when they do.
>Be charming with them.
>Don’t correct them when they make an unimportant mistake when speaking.
>Offer to be their helper.
>Ask them, don’t tell them and don’t forget to say please and thank you.
Our spouse is the most important human in our life and they should definitely feel as though they are. Would you take a challenge for me? If this is an area of weakness for you, try implementing one or two each month until they are habits and your spouse is feeling as though they alone, are your most significant other.