She doesn’t need a gigantic stuffed teddy bear or a new pajama set. She has prepared a honey-do list for you. I have organized it strategically by your priorities. This list starts with sex but be sure to persist to the end of the post, because I will have an important explanation for you.
She needs you to communicate verbally and non-verbally, that you find her sexy, beautiful and desirable.
She needs you to make love to her entire body and explore how to satisfy her sexually.
She needs you to take care of yourself physically, emotionally, mentally and most importantly, spiritually.
She needs you to make her feel like a queen.
She needs you to serve her in thoughtful little ways.
She needs you to listen to her and look her in the eyes.
She needs you to protect her.
She needs you to defend her when she’s right.
She needs you to confront her when she’s wrong.
She needs you to sacrifice some of your own desires for her.
She needs you to choose her over your activities or other people regularly.
She needs you to communicate what your needs and desires are.
She needs you to not have a critical spirit with her or the children.
She needs you to shield her from taking on too much.
She needs you to partner with her in the struggles of life including parenting.
She needs you to ask her hard questions and hold her accountable as a woman, wife and mother.
There are a few points that require further explanation. First, a husband doesn’t need to become financially burdened in order to make his wife happy. Making her feel like a queen, isn’t as much about money as it is about your effort. A good woman will feel like a queen when you make her your priority. She needs to know that she is second only to your relationship with God. Look her in the eye when she speaks, study what makes her tick and find small thoughtful ways to serve her. On the other point, it is difficult for a husband to confront his wife when she has done something wrong or needs accountability but according to God, you are the leader of your home. Unfortunately, you may lose some of your peace and quiet for a time but in the long run, your wife and children and others that are affected will benefit.
Be watching for next week’s post. We’ll take a look at what a husband really needs.