Men and women are equally valuable, and come in all shapes and sizes, with a wide variety of personalities, gifts and interests, but God made a man to be very different from a woman. God composed a beautiful symphony when He created masculine man and then feminine woman. No matter what our cultural influencers are saying, whether platonic or romantic, men are attracted to a soft feminine woman and women are attracted to a strong masculine man. What are some of the characteristics of this strong masculine male?
Physically – his body is hard and angular and he is naturally muscular and strong. He can be a little crude and rough around the edges. He craves physical touch and reads it as love – this doesn’t define him as a maniac. He is a visual creature, noticing and appreciating feminine beauty.
Emotionally – he craves peace, and will hide his feelings when he feels judged or when he believes she’ll react badly. He will always have a little boy within himself. He needs the women in his life, to be light-hearted and fun to be with. He’s not your best girlfriend – keep the girl talk and shopping between girls and don’t ask him for an opinion on your outfit – he is afraid to say the wrong thing and if he likes it, you will know. He desires to please the women in his life.
Mentally – he feels the need to provide, protect and conquer. He naturally problem solves. He’s competitive, never allowing another driver to win the race to the traffic light. He thinks in terms of compartments or boxes – only open one at a time please. He needs you to need him – stop being so darn competent at everything.
Spiritually – sometimes, he has difficulty understanding spiritual things. Don’t use your knowledge or spirituality to intimidate him. Instead, be an uplifting inspiration to him by living your faith in front of him.
Unless you’ve been sleeping under a rock, you’re aware of the slippery slope that we’re on – the blurring of the lines of distinction between men and women. Sometimes, I’m tempted to go crawl under that rock, but then I remember – God has given me a platform to speak truth. Men are men and women are women – truth. They are created to be very different from the other, but when united as two perfectly tuned and masterfully played instruments, together they make a harmonious sound. One is not more important than the other, but one is to lead and the other to help. The leader instrument provides the direction and cadence and the helper fills in with soothing and soft sounds, helping the strong to be incredibly beautiful. Imagine for a moment, the helper instrument attempting to take over. No, the symphony was planned and it is beautiful when played according to the plan. No competition – just a perfect blend of each instrument completing the other, by playing their very special part and most importantly, the conductor guiding the process.
Being a strong leader is a high responsibility and many men don’t understand what it looks like. They will either buckle under a domineering wife and allow her to lead, or they will take the tyrant approach and rule with a heavy hand. A biblical leader doesn’t do either of these. He models his leadership after the example of Christ. He is a humble, self-sacrificing servant. He leads with truth but always seasoned with grace. He never runs over others. He is courageous and stands up for what is right even when it costs him peace. He never treats a woman harshly or as though she is lower than him. He respects women and values their input, because he recognizes that they are uniquely gifted by their Creator.
We may not be able to control the cultural trends, but we can certainly take a look at ourselves and ask the hard questions. Am I playing my instrument according to the Conductor’s direction? Am I the masculine man or feminine woman that God intended me to be? Am I helping the men in my life to be the masculine men that God created them to be? What are the areas that I can improve?