The one that you trusted so much, was untrustworthy with your heart, and now they are your lost one. It feels safer to climb up onto a shelf and watch life, rather than allowing someone else into your heart again. So many tell you to move on, or get over it, or their words communicate their thoughts of “why are you still hurting”? Whether platonic or romantic, your lost one, possesses a piece of your heart, and you have a piece of theirs. That aching that you feel from time to time, is the void that was left in your heart, when they left your life.
Hopefully as you learn to trust again, a friend of comfort will come into your life. They won’t be able to fill the void that the other one left, but that’s alright, because they will make their own special home in your heart.
How will you recognize a Friend of Comfort? They won’t tell you to get over it, because they might have a void in their heart from a lost one, and they might still be hurting. They will understand and be patient with you, when you grieve. They will tell you kind things, like when you feel a tugging on your heart, it is your lost one tugging from wherever they are, and that they must be remembering and missing you, because you played such a special part in their life. They will remind you that rebuilding after an emotional storm, is a process. They will encourage you when you’ve seen your lost one, or heard from them, and feel as though all of the rebuilding that you’ve done, has been for nothing. They will see that you are strong and compassionate, and they will tell you so. They will see that you are special and beautiful, and they will make sure that you believe it. They will see that you have a heart that can comfort, because it knows pain.
I have been blessed with friends of comfort entering my life, and this post is dedicated to them. Each one has played a very special part in rebuilding me, after the storms that have hit in my life. They each are a piece to my puzzle, and this has become a beautiful puzzle. Some are sensitive. Some are quirky. Some are hilarious. All are smart, honest, loyal and fun to have in my life. They persist in telling me that I’m special. They have proven to me that I am worthy and deserving of having true and loyal friends, that also have the capacity to give back to me. I’m just so thankful for each one of them.
Come on down from that shelf. You’ve learned a lot about who to trust, and how to trust. There is a friend of comfort waiting, because they need a friend of comfort too, and that might be you.
2 Corinthians 1:3-4 All praise to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. He is the source of every mercy, and He comforts us. He comforts us in all of our troubles, so that we can comfort others. When others are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort that God has given us.