Most women express a daily mega-load of words. About 13,000 more than men. What if all of those words were uplifting?
God says that the tongue is hard to tame, full of poison, and that it’s like a small rudder that’s capable of steering a large ship. Recently, after sensing sadness within my home, I prayed and asked God to show me what my part was in this. He revealed that I’d taken my gift of words and wounded my loved-one. God had given me the gift of words to bless and build, but I’d used them as a curse.
A woman enjoys enormous power in her femininity, which can be harnessed for good, or exploited and used for destruction. We are very much like that small rudder that is capable of steering a large ship. Along with the abundance of words, a woman’s mind is able to multi-task, and we usually have an enormous capability to be aware of the happenings around us. We are natural managers, delegators and motivators. Unfortunately, pride in our abilities can get in our way. We remember details, so we correct or chide others when they don’t. We are capable of juggling many tasks, so we demean others when they can’t. When others hurt us, we wound by expertly wielding the weapon of sharp cutting remarks.
I hear your lament – “but Madeline, you have no idea how hurtful my husband has been, or how exasperating my child is, or how cruel that other woman was!” You’re right, but I do know that life isn’t fair, and that the only person that you have control over, is yourself. I’ve learned that when another person intentionally or unintentionally hurts me, I have no right to return the hurt. God tells me that as a follower of Jesus Christ, I possess the same power that resurrected Him. That’s power! I should be able to follow His command to love my neighbor – the people that He puts along my path or in my sphere of influence.
God humbled me – I apologized and then asked for forgiveness. I’m determined to steer this ship into peaceful, beautiful waters. He created me as a woman, to be a guardian of hearts. My words should be full of grace and seasoned with salt. I should protect hearts, lift hearts, build hearts, and repair hearts. Just as salt brings out the flavor of food, I can bring out the best in others. I can help someone believe that they can overcome and do great things. I can tell the truth gently, always with the motive of love, and helping another to see the best path – God’s path. I can forgive again and again, because I hope in God’s purposes. I can withhold my thoughts, because I understand that my wisdom is limited, and God is always working. Most remarkably, I can speak words to heaven, interceding for others.
Life giving words are sweet and encouraging, savory and wise. They’re not bitter, nor are they hot. Perhaps we could taste test our words, before we spit them out.
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